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7 BS Reasons Why a Sissy Shouldn’t Transition

July 10, 2024July 10, 2024 by Jordyn Addison

Have you ever wondered or fantasized about transitioning into a full-time girl? Or maybe it’s more than just a fantasy. Perhaps you’ve seriously considered making the switch from male to sissified female.

Let’s be real… most sissies don’t find themselves in a situation that is transition friendly. There are unsupportive wives, other family members, friends and certainly careers that oftentimes stand staunchly in the way, effectively creating formidable road-blocks to realizing your sissy desires.

But maybe you aren’t in a relationship. You might be a student, retired or maybe work from home. Could be… you don’t have any kids, or they are grown-up and are living their own lives now.

There’s absolutely nothing standing in the way of you becoming the woman of your dreams.

Except you!

You’ve managed to come up with some solid-as-concrete reasons why transitioning can never be for you.

What if I were to suggest that that your so-called reasonable reasons for not pursuing your feminization fantasies are not valid arguments at all. That they are merely conjured-up myths-of-the-mind. Or to but it more succinctly…

Bullshit Excuses!

But if you insist on treating them as ‘eminently good reasons’ then okay, I’ll go ahead and humor you for just a second. But it is my intention to show you that all of your compelling justifications are merely just flimsy excuses.

Reason #1 – I’m Too Old

Age can be used as an excuse to not do anything. You can be too old to go back to school, have kids, get in shape, travel the world, learn to sing and, yes… even transition.

The truth is that except for maybe a very few things (like climbing Mt Everest or dunking a basketball), you’re not too old to do anything, other than that what you are telling yourself you’re too old for.

Anne Koch—her book is excellent—transitioned when she was 63 years old.

Caitlyn Jenner was 65 when she decided to make the switch. There are several women who have transitioned while in their 70’s. So if they can do it, why not you?

The cool thing is that with new knowledge and developments surrounding the anti-aging and longevity areas of study, it’s possible, with the proper mindset and dedication, to turn back the biological clock and turn the aging process on it’s head.

For a perfect example of what’s possible, take a look at Dolly Parton. She’s 75 and looks amazing!

The best time to transition was when you were younger. The next best time is now.

Reason #2 – I’m Too Tall

Both of the above mentioned transgender women are 6’2″ – 6’6″ (at least) in heels. Apparently, they didn’t allow their height to prevent them from becoming who they really are. Nor should you.

There are lot’s of six foot tall GG girls walking around out there. They don’t run away and hide in the hamper.

It’s all about attitude and effusing self-confidence. The world will accept you if you’re willing to accept yourself. You might wanna read this Reddit thread for some inspiration.

Using the “I’m too tall” excuse is more than a little lame. Don’t do it.

Reason #3 – I’m Not Pretty or Passable Enough

We’d all like to be a bit better looking. But if you start comparing yourself with all the stunning trans girls out there, you’ll be perpetually disappointed.

The thing is… with hormones, facial feminization surgery, skillful makeup application and weight loss, you can become a pretty damn attractive woman.

Add fashionable and/or sexy clothes to the above mix and there’s no limit to how good you can look. Yes, MtF transition requires time, dedication, money and courage. But the finished product will be well worth it.

Reason #4 – I’m Too Muscular

Not all TG women walk around looking delicate, weak and waif-like, as if they’re in constant need of protection. A girl with some definition and muscle tone can be quite attractive. Female fitness contestants for example, look amazing.

Also, three years of hormones and yoga will change how your body looks. Your musculature can definitely be toned down to a more feminine looking physique. Don’t let your current body build prevent you from moving forward.

Reason #5 – I’m Too Hairy

This excuse not to transition is easy to circumvent, at least for body hair. It’s called shaving and/or IPL/laser hair removal.

News flash! cis gender women shave their legs. You can too! Personally, I use a home IPL (intense pulsed light) unit and it works really, really well. I’m now shaving my body less often and with much less hair to remove.

Admittedly, the face is a greater challenge. The only permanent hair removal method for facial hair is by undergoing electrolysis. It’s a time consuming, painful and expensive process. But it’s definitely doable.

And if you want to transition, it’s just part of the deal.

Reason #6 – I’m Bald or Losing My Hair

It would certainly be nice to have a full head of luscious, feminine hair to call your very own. If you’re balding or thinning up top, you can change that—at a cost.

If you have enough hair that can be used as a donor area, then hair transplants are an option. If not to give 100% coverage, then enough to use as a base for anchoring hair extensions.

The other route to go would be to use either a topically applied hair regrowth product that contains minoxidil such as Rogaine or orally taking finasteride, the active ingredient in Propecia. Using both of them simultaneously can improve results dramatically.

Be aware that one of the possible side effects of taking finasteride is erectile dysfunction (along with a lowering of libido). As a sissy, this could actually work in your favor.

Then of course, there are always wigs. The preponderance of inexpensive, but also nice looking wigs now-a-days makes it so that having thinning hair, or even total baldness, is really not an issue—nor an excuse—when it comes to transitioning.

Reason #7 – Transitioning is Too Expensive

Like divorce, transitioning is expensive. And like divorce, that’s okay… because both are well worth it. Anytime you take on a challenging and complicated endeavor, like switching genders, it’s gonna cost you.

Even for trans girls who decide to forego the hormone and/or surgery route, there’s still expenses like hair removal, voice feminization lessons, clothes and makeup to consider.

If you don’t think it’s possible to look amazing without hormones or surgery, then you might want to take a look at this girl’s profile over on FetLife. BTW, that’s her in the photo below. Just so you know, she stands six-foot-three and has a penchant for wearing nose-bleed heels.

The good news is that with ever-changing attitudes regarding trans people, medical insurance companies, including Medicare, are beginning to come on board and sometimes cover FHT and even gender reassignment surgery.

If your insurance doesn’t happen to cover transition procedures, then you will have to pay out of pocket. But these costs can be saved-up for and spread out over time.

For example, you might start off with electrolysis, then move on to hormones. After that you can undergo FFS—which can be split-up into several different procedures. Breast augmentation can come next, followed up with bottom-end surgery, if you decide to go that far.

The thing is, if you want to transition badly enough, you WILL find a way to come up with the money. There is ALWAYS a way! You just have to get creative with the financing.

Stop With the Excuses Already

So, hopefully I’ve made it crystal clear that if you’re trans, or trans enough, then you really don’t have any good reasons to not transition and become the girl that you want to be. In fact, they were never actually reasons to begin with—only pathetic, pitiful excuses.

Show some sissy courage, and just do what needs to be done darling.

Are You Trans Enough?

Of course if you’re not sure if you are actually transgender, or trans enough, then you wouldn’t want to begin the transition process. To figure out if you are TG or not, you might find this article helpful: Are You a Crossdresser or Transgender?

The Sissy Weight Loss Manifesto – Part 2

June 24, 2024June 24, 2024 by Jordyn Addison

Note: This is Part 2 of the 3 part “The Sissy Weight Loss Manifesto” series. For optimal results, skipping past Part 1 – The Why, or skipping to Part 3 – The What, is NOT recommended.

If you wanted me to, I could show you how to lose 10 pounds in two weeks. Like many others, I’ve done it. There’s no special sissy science behind it. But I really wouldn’t be doing you any favors.

Yes, you would most likely lose the 10 pounds in the specified amount of time. But that doesn’t mean the excess ‘junk-in-the-trunk’ would necessarily be gone forever—it probably wouldn’t. It would be much better and waaaaay more effective if you could view losing weight from a loftier perspective.

Looking at Sissy Weight Loss as A Process

I’m confident that you’re already aware that 90% of people who lose a significant amount of weight—including sissies such as yourself—gain it all back (and then some) within a few months. For a man, that’s no big deal… just go out and buy some bigger pants.

For a girl like you that would be an unmitigated disaster. All those beautiful, and possibly expensive, clothes that you could no longer fit into would be a devastating turn of events. We don’t want you to experience any of that.

If you want to be a slim and sexy sissy, for the remainder of your feminine life, then you will want to approach your weight loss journey with more of a long term mindset. This unique program talks about a different way to eat. It’s called the Custom Keto Diet. It might be just what you’re looking for.

Like achieving anything else in life, losing weight permanently comes down to a process. And that process begins with becoming aware of what’s going on inside of your beautiful brain.

Who Do You Think You Are?

Have you ever wondered why no matter what size people happen to be, fat or skinny—or somewhere in between, most of the population’s weight doesn’t really change all that much?

Sure, there might be normal fluctuations of a few pounds throughout the week or month, but for the majority of people, unless they’re crash dieting or on a binge-eating spree at the local smorgasbord, their weight is pretty much stabilized.

The reason for this is that we all have an internal ‘weight thermostat’ that is set to—more-or-less—accurately reflect what we believe, at a subconscious level, what we think we’re supposed to weigh.

Just like the thermostat in your home which keeps your house at a constant temperature—within a couple of degrees anyway—your weight thermostat functions in the same way.

But unlike the t-stat in your home, where you can easily set it to any temperature you like, the setting on your internal weight thermostat is not so easy to change. That’s because it’s set by your internal self image.

What your body looks like—including what you weigh, is, at the most basic of levels, what you believe to be true about yourself. Since we’re not always consciously aware of our inner-most thoughts and beliefs, this concept can get a bit tricky.

You have to become self-aware enough to realize that your underlying beliefs about yourself are stealthily responsible for what your internal weight thermostat is currently set to.

You can only be, and therefore have, what you truly believe you deserve. That’s true for every part of your life, including your weight. This psychological concept explains why people have such a difficult time changing their life circumstances.

It’s damn daunting to change what you believe about yourself at the sub-conscious level. That’s why a high percentage of lottery winners find themselves broke within two years. It’s the same reason why someone who loses a significant amount of weight in a relatively short period of time, gains it all back not too long afterwards.

Although it’s incredibly difficult to re-set your internal weight t-stat and change what you believe about how your body should look overnight, it’s entirely doable using a more methodical, systematic approach.

You can use a technique to lose weight by taking several short, sissy-like steps instead of attempting to accomplish it with a single, ginormous quantum leap (aka, crash dieting).

The Concept of Weight Compartments

The idea behind this concept is to divide things up into weight compartments of 10 pounds each and then methodically move down into a different weight compartment—one compartment at a time—over and extended period of time.

Right now your weight falls within a certain ‘weight compartment’. It might be 180-190 or maybe 150-160. Whatever your weight compartment happens to be right now doesn’t really matter—simply identify where it’s at—nothing more and nothing less.

What’s critically important here is to accept your current weight compartment without beating yourself up about it. Try looking at your present weight with a neutral, detached frame of mind. I’m not saying you have to like what you weigh, just accept your weight, minus any nasty judgments.

People over-eat for a myriad of reasons, most of them being emotional or psychological. Although it may be important, at some point, to understand what these reasons are… we really don’t have time to explore them right now.

What is important to realize is that by harboring negative emotions about your current weight, will only make it more difficult for you to move down to a lower weight compartment. Saying to yourself something like “I’m a fat-ass sissy”, only serves to surround your current weight compartment with an emotional charge which tends to make it more real—locking it into place.

Viewing your present weight in an honest and unbiased manner removes all the drama from the situation, helping you to see the truth—that what you currently weigh is merely a temporary condition rather than a permanent part of your life. Embracing this perspective makes losing weight much less of a struggle.

A Real-Life Example of Sissy Weight Loss

Please allow me to share how using this concept of weight compartments has worked really well for me over the past three years. My drivers license lists my weight at 160 pounds or 72.5 kilos. While living in that compartment, I would typically weigh somewhere between 160 and 165 pounds; my weight range compartment being 160-169 pounds (72.5 to 77 kilos).

When my desire to be a muscular macho-man began to waver, my weight dropped down and leveled off to 155 pounds. My new weight compartment was now 150-159 pounds. I had traded my old 160 pound body into a slightly slimmer 155 pound version. This was now my new identity—my new belief— of what I should now weigh.

Of course I decided to make some lifestyle changes in order to transition to this lower weight-class. I was drinking less beer and eating healthier, but it was natural and easy for me because this is how a 155 pound person lives their lives. I was satisfied to be in this newer weight compartment for around 5 years. It had become my new ‘normal’.

As more of my sissy nature began to surface, I decided I wanted a slimmer, sexier and more feminine looking body. Being in the 150’s wasn’t doing it for me any longer. Wanting to drop down into the 140-149 weight compartment was a BIG deal for me!

As I was moving in that skinnier direction, I wasn’t able to consistently stay there. I fluctuated between 147 and 152 pounds over the course of a year or so. Psychologically, I didn’t yet see myself as a person who weighed-in at 140 something.

In other words, my long-held beliefs concerning my weight were not in alignment with my desires.

But after I was able to spend a greater percentage of my time at 147 pounds, my self-image—my internal weight thermostat—eventually became more congruent with my sissy weight loss aspirations.

Soon I had left the 150’s in the dust and took up semi-permanent residency in the 140-149 weight compartment. I say semi, not because I was ever going back up to a more manly 150 pound weight range… on the contrary, I was setting my sissy sights much lower. Could it be possible for me to get into the 130’s?

As I mentioned before, my driver’s license indicated that I weighed 160 pounds. My height was listed as a proportionate 5′ 9″. But I was never legitimately that tall; closer to 68 inches in reality. Since guys usually want to be taller so I fudged my height up.

Losing my desire to be a man was giving me a different perspective on height. Most girls don’t want to be tall. I actually stand at 67.5 inches or 171.5 cm. I now round that down to a more feminine 67 inches.

Of course what I’m doing here is using my reduced height to rationalize a lower weight. What sounds sexier… 5′ 7″ and 140 something or 5′ 7″ and 130 something? What began as a pretty much unobtainable dream/desire to weigh 137 pounds has turned into a reality for me.

As I write these words, I weighed myself this morning at 135 pounds—with my panties on! I can safely say that I am now a permanent sissified citizen of the 130-139 weight club. Yep, that’s the real me below.

My Sissy Weight Loss Journey

This is a break-down of how the time-frame transpired. I keep a spreadsheet of my weight (I’m such a sissy nerd):

For most of 2016 I weighed somewhere in the 150’s. I got a brief glimpse of the 140’s towards the end of that year.

2017 saw me in the upper 140 pound range. 2018 was more of the same but I broke through to 139 at the very end of that year. For 2019 I’ve been consistently in the mid-to-high 130 pound range.

It was imperative that I spent a significant amount of time in each weight compartment so as to allow my self image to ‘catch-up’ with my new, lower weight.

It took me over 3 years to go from 155 pounds to 135 pounds. Yes, I could have lost that 20 pounds in less than three months if I had really wanted to. But, like I stated earlier in this article, the weight wouldn’t have stayed off.

Three months just isn’t enough time to change your deeply held beliefs about who you are. After 20 pounds of relatively rapid weight loss, I still would have psychologically been a 155 pound person—and would have acted accordingly in putting the weight back on.

It would have been a classic case of subtle-self-sabotage at its best.

Back in 2016 my internal weight thermostat was set to reflect something between a more-or-less 155 pound macho male and a wanna-be sissy. Now I identify as a 135 pound serious sissy—and a slim and sexy one at that.

The past three years has been an identity-changing process; and it was the perfect time-frame for me to do it in. Is it possible that you could change your identity, weight-wise, in a shorter amount of time? Maybe so.

Creating a New Identity For Yourself

As a sissy, you can weigh whatever you want. You don’t have to be a skinny-assed sissy… but if that’s your desire—and it might be since you’re reading this article—then you will, over time, need to change your identity by re-setting your internal weight thermostat.

It’s neither necessary nor advisable to try to hasten the process. It takes some time. You just need to patiently progress into your new you.

Babies naturally go from crawlers to walkers
Self-made billionaires morph from being broke to rich
Ugly crossdressers transform into transgender beauties
Sissies progress from masculine to more feminine… and maybe even from heavier to lighter

Improving your life in any way is a matter of embarking on a process that entails constant and consistent progress. During this journey you are methodically morphing into something different… creating a completely new identity for yourself.

You really can’t short-circuit this identity-changing process. Your desires must be congruent with your current beliefs about yourself, otherwise you’ll experience what is called ‘cognitive dissonance’ and any changes just aren’t gonna stick. You can’t fake a new identity—it’s gotta be real.

If you’re willing to embrace this WAY of losing weight and not succumb to the “I want it all—and I want it now” attitude so prevalent in our impatient culture, then you might be interested in what physical actions you need to take in order to permanently lose weight.

Are You Ready For The “WHAT”?

As a former compulsively obsessed runner—turned certified personal trainer—turned professional dieter—turned skinny sissy, I have been able to zero in on the most effective and healthiest methods to lose weight.

That’s what Part 3 – The WHAT of the “The Sissy Weight Loss Manifesto” is all about.

Now that you have this crucial ‘mindset’ part of MtF weight loss down, then the actual actions you need to take become an after-thought… just an ongoing part of this sissy weight loss process.

It’s now time to set your sights on the next lower weight compartment and move on to the WHAT.

A Sissy Hourglass Figure?

If you’re interested in achieving that coveted—and much admired—hourglass figure, you may want to check out my article: The Sissy Feminizing Workout For an Hourglass Figure.